I've been a professional psychic for about 25 years. I read cards, I channel information directly from Spirit, I communicate with people who have passed on. These are all ways that I get information from "the other side," the non-physical realm. I can also contact people who are still alive but not present, if they have information they can share.

In this blog I intend to share information about what I do so that people who might need my services can find out about me, and also to help people who are interested in doing similar work.

People often ask me how I got into this line of work, so here's my background in a nutshell:

As a small child, I was able to hold two-way conversations with plants and animals. Growing up, I often knew what other people were thinking and feeling, but I assumed that was normal and thought nothing of it. When I was 38 I met a professional psychic who taught me to read playing cards and urged me to share my gifts by offering psychic readings to the public. In the course of doing readings with the cards, I gradually found out that I could do other things like channel Spirit or communicate with the dead. Somewhere along the line I learned to work with other spirits or energies and do things like clear houses and other spaces. I'll be writing articles about each of these aspects of my work; if you get tired of waiting feel free to ask questions.

Saturday, November 22, 2014

Talking with those who have died

I often get calls about people who have died. It’s usually from a family member or friend who wants to know how the person is doing. Usually they call several months after the death, and this can have an effect on the experience of contacting the person because, generally speaking, the longer someone’s been gone, the less interested they are in the life they just finished.

Compare these two contrasting experiences:

  • I had a client who wanted to talk to her daughter who had died 10 years previously. It took a while to make contact with her and when we finally did, the daughter was definitely annoyed. “What do you want? That was a long time ago.”

  • I helped a different woman whose uncle had been dead only a couple months. When we contacted him, he was very excited about the experiences he was having and was very busy in his process. But he was also pleased that his niece was checking up on him, so without stopping what he was doing, he looked in our direction and gave us a wave and a huge smile. It was like, “Don’t have time to chat, but thanks for coming by!” He was having too much fun to stop!

And this is a perfect illustration of how one person changes over time:

  • I contacted my father a year after he died. He didn't have much to say but still it was almost like talking to him before he died because he “felt” like the same person. But I contacted him again 2 years later and he was cold and indifferent; he was like a total stranger except that he knew who I was.

So here are some things you might find helpful if you’re interested in contacting someone who’s died.

When you contact someone who has been gone just a short time, they’re usually still interested in talking; they might be in shock, they might be having a ball, they might be very excited, they might be depressed, but they’re usually willing to talk. But after a certain amount of time has passed, if their process is going normally, they’re just really not interested anymore. There is no set "cut-off point," everybody's different, and it's something that happens gradually. But when you contact people who've been gone a long time, sometimes they’re politely tolerant, and sometimes they’re just short of rude. And it’s because they’re already involved in their next venture and the past is gone as far as they’re concerned. Dwelling on the past is a waste of time and energy (regardless whether you’re alive or dead) and people who are in the spirit realm are not inclined to do it.

There is a normal, more or less “standard” death process that most (not all) people go through after they die, and it can very roughly be described as “saying goodbye; reviewing your life; getting ready for your next life.”

  • The “saying goodbye” part is pretty much what it sounds like. You spend a short while visiting people and/or places you knew in your life, getting closure before leaving that life behind.
  • Reviewing your life” is also what it sounds like. You look back at every single thing you did in your life, and judge or grade yourself on how you did.
  • Getting ready for the next life” is a very long, complex, drawn-out process. Your focus at this time is on planning your next life, and the more your planning progresses, the less interest you have in the life and people you've left behind.

But some people do maintain an attachment to the physical plane for a long time after they die instead of going through the normal process, and without losing interest as time passes. There are two main reasons why someone might do that:

  • They’re lost or confused or afraid. Sometimes, for various reasons, people get confused or afraid during the dying process and they just can’t see or hear the beings that are there to help them. I have worked with clients whose deceased friend or relative was in a state like this, and we were able to help them move on into their appropriate after-death process.
  •  They've stayed here to help someone, a friend or relative, with their life. “Spirit guide” is a popular name for a spirit who does this. I have talked with spirit guides who were staying around the physical plane to help relatives they left behind, and it’s always a pleasant, interesting experience.

 If you have a desire or a need to contact someone who has died, or if you just want more info, please feel free to contact me.

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